Hurt People Hurt People
The trouble with emotional pain is that the only way you can be aware of it is when it reveals itself in your behaviour. It’s not at all like physical injury that you can see or localize but it lurks deep within and expresses itself through your behaviour and decisions. In the end, you end up hurting the people you love because you yourself are hurt.
I remember seeing a documentary on foxes, an injured fox lashes out at anything that comes near it, no matter how well intentioned the thing is. Its instinct is to protect itself at all costs. You are very much the same, in an emotionally wounded state you will become irrationally self protective and lash out at the very people who love you and want to help you.
If you stopped and listen to the voice of your ego (whose motive really is to keep you safe) you would hear things like “Don’t trust anyone,” “They just want to use you”, and things like that, and you behave accordingly. The trouble with behaviour is that while you will question other people’s actions, you don’t question your own until they have cost you dearly. So the big question is how much of what you do is motivated by the unhealed emotional wounds that you carry? The lashing out and pushing away that feels so rational and necessary is nothing more than an attempt to defend yourself from an imagined enemy.
Taking the time to heal and get help is essential, a wounded person only ends up wounding the people around them (especially the ones that really do care and want to help) and you end up with a victim instead of a partner. How do you know if you are carrying around an unhealed hurt? Simple, how easy is it for you to just be happy and let yourself give and receive love? Not so easy? You may be walking wounded.
Posted on February 6, 2013, in Life Coaching, Peace, Personal Power, Relationships, Uncategorized and tagged Advice, Codependency, divorce, happiness, health, healthy-living, heartbreak, inspiration, Interpersonal relationship, Intimate relationship, life coaching, Marriage, mental-health, Motivation, relationship, Relationship counseling, relationships, self control, Self-Help, Single person, Thought, Unconscious mind. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.