Relationship Assassins – Staying Too Long
This is an interesting one, when you know that your relationship is over and you stay because you are afraid of leaving, this robs you of finding the right relationship and freeing your partner to move on to find the right one for him/her as well.
This is one of the biggest issues I have had to help a lot of clients deal with, letting go when it is long past due to let go. Even if there are kids involved, using them as an excuse to stay does no good to you or them, what kind of message do your kids get about relationships if you are miserable in yours? They will only blame themselves for your unhappiness if they are the reason you stay. Besides you being happy will be far more beneficial to them than you being sad.
Holding on when it is time to let go kills any future hope for a happy relationship for both parties, and it is probably one of the most selfish things you can do. Ripping the band-aid off quickly is far better than a long, slow, festering death. If you know it is time to let go and you find you can’t then for your own sake give me a call (or any other coach), as the longer you wait the more difficult it will become and you will only end up bitter and sick. You know those miserable old people you swear you will never be like? That’s where you are headed. Sure you may hurt the other person in the process, but setting them free to find the love they deserve is far better in the long run.
If you are like most people you will probably just try to ignore the problem and hope that you will either learn to cope, or that by some miracle things will change. Dream on, it’s the elephant in the room that no one can ignore; what’s more it is dead so eventually the smell will get you if you find you can ignore it. Do everyone, including you, a favour, if it is time to let go then let go. You don’t need to do it alone either, coaching is a wonderful way to get through the worst of things.
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Posted on October 30, 2012, in Life Coaching, Peace, Personal Power, Relationships, Uncategorized and tagged Advice, Codependency, divorce, happiness, heartbreak, inspiration, Interpersonal relationship, Intimate relationship, Marriage, relationship, relationships, Self-Help, stupid decision, Thought, Unconscious mind. Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.