Monthly Archives: March 2011

Looking for the How

One of the biggest hindrances to progress is our desperate need to know how. We get faced with some need or challenge, we put our request out there, we visualize the outcome, we feel the feelings, but then we start considering the “how?”.

“Ok,” we say, “I believe that the universe can bring me this desired thing, but I just can’t see how.” With that statement come feelings of desperation, doubt, hopelessness. Then guess what happens next? You got it, exactly what we fear will happen.

Auto maker Henry Ford asked electrical genius Charlie Steinmetz to build the generators for his factory. One day the generators ground to a halt, and the repairmen couldn’t find the problem. So Ford called Steinmetz, who tinkered with the machines for a few hours and then threw the switch. The generators whirred to life—but Ford got a bill for $10,000 from Steinmetz. Flabbergasted, the rather tight fisted car maker inquired why the bill was so high. Steinmetz’s reply: For tinkering with the generators, $10. For knowing where to tinker, $9,990. Ford paid the bill.

The point is this, the universe know exactly how to bring your desires to you, so long as you allow it to do so. By getting yourself bogged down with the how, you actively begin resisting the universe. “I believe it will happen,” feels a lot better than, “I don’t know how,”. Your security must be in the source and not in the method.  We use so many things in life without knowing how they work: computers, cars, TV’s etc. We simply expect them to work. You should have the same expectation of the universe.  Don’t worry about how the law of attraction will work for you, just know that it will, and does. So next time you feel yourself getting bogged down with wanting to know how. Don’t. It’s a waste of time. How is on a need to know basis. And you don’t need to know.


Why Sympathy Doesn’t Always Help

Feeling sorry for someone is the wrong thing to do. For two reasons, it only adds to their misery, and it creates the same situation in your life.

Sounds heartless, until you realize that you actually add to their suffering instead of easing it. It may bring them a little comfort at first, but remember that life is all about vibration and feeling is vibration, and vibration attracts like.

There’s only one of two things that you can do, help them to find value in their life and thus change their vibration, or remove yourself from the situation. I would only advise comforting or supporting someone so long as it does not affect your vibrational state, but if you can’t keep your state and stay in their presence then the best thing will be to leave. You will make things worse for them, and for you.

Learning to Let Go

In Roman times they would really go to town to punish someone. If you were guilty of murder they would tie the victim to you, and you would carry the corpse around until it rotted and you caught some disease and died. We don’t do that anymore. Yet we still choose to carry around the mistakes of our past. We need to learn to learn from our mistakes and then let them go.

Unprocessed emotions are usually the reason why we carry around baggage from the past. When we don’t learn what we should have learned from an event, then the emotion goes unprocessed until we do.

Seeing each event as a learning opportunity can assist you with letting go. Sometimes the learning is as simple as “I didn’t choose the other person’s behaviour.”

So learn and let go.

Greater Than Your Thoughts

Did you know that we are unique in creation in that we can observe ourselves thinking, while other creatures react to life, we can respond.

Think of what it means to be able you observe yourself thinking. You can stop unwanted thoughts when they happen, you can choose what you do want to think. You can separate yourself from unresourceful states. You can choose new courses of action. You can chart your own personal growth.

It takes some slowing down, or even better, some letting go, in order to do this. Have you ever noticed that the faster you drive, the more limited your response time becomes? You can’t manage the thoughts that blaze through your mind when you live at high speed. Slowing down and letting go gets you there faster.

When You Don’t Know

Sometimes, when an undesired outcome is barreling down on you, you just don’t know what to do. You know exactly how that feels. You really aren’t helpless however. You know exactly how you want to feel.

We live in a vibration based universe, faith is focused thinking. Faith results in feelings, and feelings are vibrations. Doing is not a vibration, just because you are doing something it does not mean you are achieving something.

So you feel panicked and you make a plan, that plan will attract more of what will make you panic. Focus on how you want to feel and then let the plan be born out of the way you feel. Would you rather make a plan based on feelings of insecurity or on feelings of confidence?

Focus on how you want to feel.

The Real Enemy

Emotions are always good, they simply feel bad sometimes. Your goal is not to get rid of emotions, as emotions serve the most important role of telling you when you are out of alignment with your highest self. The real enemy is bad vibrations. Bad vibrations attract bad things, and when you feel bad emotions then you are on bad vibration alert. The trick is to listen to the emotions and then change accordingly.

When the oil light of your car comes on, you know what to do (or should), you put oil in. When you focus on what you don’t want your emotional warning light switches on and you shift your focus back to what you do want. Many people don’t know how to do this, or even that they should, and just carry on worrying. Eventually they will end up with a whole lot more of what they don’t want.

Learn to listen to your emotions, the instant you feel “bad” beginning to happen, then you know that you are focusing on what you don’t want. At the point, acknowledge the focus, feel grateful towards the gift of emotions, and then choose to focus on what you do want and allow your emotions to shift into “good”.

Honour Yourself

Regardless of the “you” that you portray to the outside world, only you know at this point in time how you really feel. Many people do things in the course of living their lives that truly do not honour their highest selves. You know when you do them because you can feel it. That disparity that you feel when you live at odds with your highest self is often the cause behind most of the destructive and unresourceful things you see happening in your life. Sure, you can live your life any way you choose to live, and no one has the right to judge you, but you know when you are not living in alignment with your highest self, and you must live with the consequences. It will be difficult for you to live a better life if you continue to dishonour yourself, you will be at constant war with yourself, gaining and losing ground. Make it easy, honour yourself!

You’ve Got it All

Waiting for that extra “something” to come and give you that much needed boost? You may be waiting a while, or you may end up disappointed. The truth of the matter is that you already have everything you need in order to make any change you need to make in your life.  If you want something external to come along and make the change then you may end up with less than you had before.


It has to do with the energy behind the action. When somebody reaches out for something outside of themselves, the thought behind the action is usually focused on what that person doesn’t have, or doesn’t want. For example, “I don’t have enough money, I wish someone would give me money,”. When your thoughts are focused on what you don’t have or want, then you will get more of what you don’t have or want.  You get what you focus on.

On the other hand, the person who gets what they need from within themselves is focusing on the resources they already have.  Do you want to feel motivated? Remember the last time you felt motivated and draw your motivation from that memory, you already have that resource within you, and focusing on it will attract even more your way.  Apply this technique for any resource that you want, even money. Focusing on what you want by imagining and feeling as though you have it will bring it your way, focusing on what you don’t have and what you don’t want and imagining and feeling as though you don’t have what you want or have what you don’t want will bring more of that your way. You get to choose the life you want to live by choosing your focus. It really is that simple. Most people live in ignorance of this fact, and waste their energy on things they don’t want. Being disciplined and choosing your focus can make all the difference in your life.

Believing is Seeing

Seeing is believing, believe that and it’s no wonder that you don’t see the change you want to see.

We live in a society that wants evidence before they believe. It simply doesn’t work that way. If it ever does then it is by accident. The law of attraction responds to vibration, like is attracted to like and what is unlike doesn’t come near. So if you feel poor, you will get more of poor, and what you need to make you prosperous is repelled.

You have to get into the right vibrational state first, and then you will get what you want. I know, it is easier to believe when you see, but it simply cannot work that way. It’s no wonder that those who truly succeed are few, it takes work to believe without seeing first, but it pays off, believe me on that!


Telling Your Story

Are you surrounded by people who complain? Are you a complainer yourself? That’s just telling your story as it is. Try something different, try telling it like you want it. Changing the way you tell your story can change your life.

Complaining is just telling people about what you don’t want in life, and it is usually accompanied by a lot of bad feelings. When you catch yourself complaining, or talking negatively, then just stop yourself and start telling it as you want it to be. So “My boss shows me no respect,” becomes, “I want a boss that shows me respect,” and allow yourself to experience how it would feel to have a boss that respects you. Try it.

Life responds to feelings, not language, so telling it as you want it steers you towards the most resourceful feelings, that’s what makes the change.