I’m a Model, You Know What I Mean.
You’re a model, yes you are. You are modeling the life you are living. If someone were to do what you did, think your thoughts, and behave in the same way as you, they would have lives just like yours. Why do you think children turn out the way they do?
On a more positive note, if you want to be something, say a champion cyclist, here’s what you need to do: Find a champion cyclist and copy them. Copy their behaviour, do what they do, find out how they think and think that way too. If you can do all of that, then you will be a champion cyclist.
Of course, ecology plays a role, by this I mean how it affects your life. Perhaps being a champion cyclist isn’t a good fit for your life and circumstances. For the most part it holds true, find the life you want, then model it.